11 Quick Fixes that have Helped People Build Self-confidence

Practical Tips to Build and Boost Self-confidence

The rise in depression attests to the fact that a lot of young individuals are wallowing in self-pity and guilt and need to build self-confidence by realizing that nothing is over yet.

Here are ways to build overall self-confidence

1. Self-affirmations each day before the mirror. Tell yourself you are smart, lovable, etc.
2. Smile at people and enjoy the positive response.
3. Set personal boundaries and enforce them.
4. Stand up straight; don’t slouch.
5. Break big tasks down into smaller ones; reward yourself when you achieve things.
6. Be around people who build you up, not those who tear you down.
7. If a day at a time is overwhelming, switch to taking things an hour at a time.
8. Try to develop a thicker skin. Not everyone likes you, but who cares? You don’t like everyone either.
9. Accept that hearing “no” and being rejected are a fundamental part of life.
10. Draw a clear line between the personal and the professional.
11. Help others. It’s good to be needed.

You are not your past, but you shape your own destiny regardless. Be bold, brave and unstoppable, never give up. We are here to express not to impress, so be real and original because masks don’t give satisfaction.

What self-confidence can do

To have any real success and even happiness, we all need a level of confidence. Always look at yourself with positive and realistic eyes. Unbeknownst to many, character communicates who or what you’re, so your level of confidence speaks volume about—if not defines—your responsiveness to responsibility. Do what makes you happy. When you’re happy, it shows in your body language, your aura, and your speech. When people see that you’re happy, they see your confidence as well. Forgive yourself when you make a mistake and remind yourself you don’t have to be perfect to be phenomenal. “Peace begins with a smile.” – Mother Teresa

Mistakes are inevitable. Phenomenons are accidental. You know who changes the world? Capable and imperfect people. Not the smartest, not the “luckiest,” and definitely, not the most calculated people in the room. Success is a planned event but occurs almost randomly in nature. You’re capable. We’re all imperfect. Telling yourself that you are good work wonders, and smiling oozes positive vibes. Always remember you become what you expect of yourself. Expect the best and tell yourself you deserve it and you will find ways to achieve your goals.

Building self-confidence with the experiences from your falls

One way to boost confidence is to learn how to reframe failures, rejections and mistakes to learning moments. This helps build thicker skin and boost confidence. Set yourself some reasonable and attainable goals (either personal or professional); which are mid-level challenging and shorter term, then feel the endorphins when you achieve them. “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.” –  Norman Vincent Peale

Behave generously, first of all. You will feel rich and like the rich-feel. So, choose to be generous. You can share knowledge. Make eye contact. You can make a life-changing introduction for a friend, instead of letting them “connect the dots” on their own. Continue to say “thank you” in different ways. You don’t need to “prepare.” Also, you don’t have to buy anything or make time out of your busy schedule. You just need to spread generosity across your day, in little ways, every day. You can do big things, small things, simple things, all kinds of things. You will never run out of ideas or run out of love. You will only create more. On a practical level, create a mind map of any failure and draw out what you learned from it.

Reaching out to others

Volunteer to take on new tasks, put yourself in positions you have to speak or perform before a small or large audience. Don’t always hide indoors. Come out, make new friends, spend time with them, contribute to discussions, joke, laugh when necessary with all your heart, tell your story and catch fun with its downside. Do things that always make you happy and excited (please, not immoral things). Everyone deserves to be happy. Be dedicated to developing your skills and gaining knowledge. Read books, and attend seminars and training.

Albert Einstein said, “Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Ability to muster and maintain inner-strength will translate to outward capability. How you address yourself is how you will be addressed. Learn to embrace self affirmations―positive energy goes fitter than one can imagine.

Conquering your fears

Know your fears and find ways to overcome them. Learn from your mistakes and other people’s experience because the saying, “Experience is the best teacher” is outdated. Not everyone wants to experience unpleasant events. Observations and research pay. Accept that hearing “no” and being rejected are a fundamental part of life. Also, draw a clear line between what’s personal and what’s professional.

You have to give yourself a reason to be confident. That’s the greatest of ways to build overall confidence in oneself. When you are happy with your achievements and yourself as a person (regardless of what others think), you will naturally be more confident. If you’re a Christian, say at least a little prayer every day. Be thankful for every success and failure. Positivity starts only when you start appreciating both the good and the bad. Celebrating the smallest of achievements can rush positivity and ooze confidence in you. Mindset is what drives you. Get that right and you will be amazed at the results.

The listed 11 tips is credited to the original author, Kirsty Bonner .