When Someone In Need Does Not Want Your Help.

When someone doesn’t want your help, what do you do?

Have you ever tried to help someone in need, only to be met with resistance or disinterest? It could be a friend, a partner, a colleague at work, a mate or even a total stranger. I have this experience a lot of times and I can tell it is a frustrating and disheartening experience. So what do you do when someone in need doesn’t want your help?

As the saying goes,

You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.

I realized after these experiences that it’s essential to always remember that not everyone is ready to accept help for reasons best known to them.

If there’s no betrayal of friendship, heartbreak, breach of trust, and not an out of the blues act, then we can approach it differently.

Sometimes we are more helpful when we choose to move on and wishing someone well (wish it only if you mean it! People kind of second guess ingenuity pretty well these days).

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Why? If you push, it will never be appreciated.  And do not always think there’s an ulterior motive. This could be because people have shadow work or mental housekeeping to keep them occupied. Once they clear up their mind departments you have a good chance of being let back in.

“When someone is not ready to be helped, it’s like trying to plant a seed in barren soil. No matter how much you nurture, it won’t grow.“

It’s crucial to recognize when someone is not receptive to our assistance and know when to pull back. Continuing to push can lead to burnout and damage relationships. Instead, we should wish them well and move on, freeing ourselves to guide those who are eager and ready for our help.

As Brené Brown so aptly puts it,

“You can’t fix anyone else’s life, but you can be a good friend and be there for them.”

Sometimes, people need space and time to confront their own obstacles. Respecting their boundaries and giving them room to grow can lead to stronger, healthier, and more lasting relationships.

In a nutshell

•  Acknowledge their decision with a simple “Okay, no problem my dear!”
•  Avoid being pushy or intrusive
•  Be available if they change their mind or need help in the future
•  Focus on supporting others who may need my assistance

Remember, it’s not personal; it’s about their readiness. If you’ve made a positive impact, they will return when they’re prepared to accept your help. And that’s when the real growth happens.

What the conclusion is

By embracing this mindset, we can avoid the pitfalls of codependency and empower others to take ownership of their journey. So, let’s learn to recognize when someone is not ready for our help and graciously step back, allowing them the space they need to flourish.

 

There’s always a gate after the wait. Slow and steady always wins the race because it appreciates the abundant value as well as resourcefulness of giving and taking time.